I have been a parent for 23 years. In that time, I have had disorganized ideas of discipline. Some things stuck, some ideas didn't. I am not a huge fan of spankings, but believe me, I have delivered my share. I like the idea of timeout, but really, I think I might be the only one who benefits from those. Now that the littles are older, I have implemented grounding all over again. That always worked with J. Not so much with H. H wasn't into TV or computers or games, so what was I grounding her from? Not much. With J, I always unhooked the PS2 or the Xbox 360 and the TV until he earned it back. With the littles, for some reason I had a hard time making it stick. Or I could never come up with the right amount of time.
After perusing the Internet for summer fun a month or so ago, I ran across this little goodie: Grounded?? I immediately got started on my own list. I copied some from her list, used some from her list with different point values, and came up with some items of my own. I know this list is a work in progress, for example, I am thinking I really don't want my 5 year old to fix dinner for us by himself or do a load of laundry from start to finish.
I debated whether to have them earn 500 points. It seemed too easy. But really it isn't as easy as one would think. Just because I would rack up thousands of points a day doesn't mean it is easy enough for the littles to do it. However, this is discipline, a punishment for not-okay behavior. It shouldn't be easy. So I am going to go ahead and stick with 500 points for now. They still have to do their regular chores - straighten up their room, pick up their toys, etc. These are in addition.
A is already up to 140 points since this morning. I now have empty trashcans, 2 clean toilets, the living room/dining room dusted, and a sweet note (even if she wrote it to get points).
Oh my goodness. I am not going to lie. This is my new method of discipline. A clean house? Yes, please. I kinda hope they get grounded every week. (jk, really, I promise...)